Dear I.M's
I am struggling and need some advice with coping.
I'm a young stay at home mother of two, and am going crazy at home!
I fell pregnant with my eldest (starting school next year) at 15 and did not complete school/have never worked. I now have a second and am going crazy being stuck at home everyday, living ground hog day. Being that we live on one income I can't afford to place them in daycare so I can't return to school to get a job until they are both in school. My eldest has a developmental delay so I need to be available for various appointments through the week for him. We live half an hour out of a rural town that also has no play groups to attend.
I'm feeling so alone and just lost, trying to work out who I am and what I want but unable to take any action. I'm finding myself feeling resentful at times and just depressed.
I'm not sure really what I'm asking perhaps just that I'm not alone feeling this way??
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You are not alone. Staying home can be bloody hard! I had to stop work 2 years ago for various reasons and it drove me crazy but I've now found some things I can do at home.
Firstly if you know any friends with kids, some thing my mum was involved in when she lived in a small country town was create an informal daycare arrangement. Basically each week, one day a week one mum would have the kids so the other mums could have some me time, each week it rotated. Otherwise you could start your own playgroup. Just contact the playgroup association an make enquiries.
Also nows a great time to study online. It's a great way to try out some courses. You could study one topic and see how you like it. With one at home during the day one subject should be manageable.
Big hugs to you.. Jump online and have a look at various ways you complete your education thru tafe. You should be able to do this distance Ed now and this will allow you to further career plans when you are able to work (kids at school).
You could put a notice up in the local shopping centre and start a small playgroup as If there is none in your community I'd bet that other mums would be feeling the same. BIG HUGS AND CHIN UP.
. Staying at home with two little ones is never easy and is not for everyone
Please don't bet yourself up.I was going insane until I started.studying it gave me a mental break and the ability to do something other then be a mum n.wife.
Good luck