Feeling very down with life at the moment. I have an almost 1yr old who I had to stop feeding as he bit me & it wasn't healing. Since stopping he doesn't sleep very well so neither do I. On top of this my hubby holidays that were booked 11 months ago were revoked & now instead of having a wonderful holiday he is busier than ever (even having to work Xmas day & new year) we hardly even have time to chat. I'm trying to stay positive for my bigger kids & doing fun things but I just feel so empty & so tired. Don't really know what asking really just need to chat I guess as I don't feel I have anyone else to really chat to. For some reason when ever I'm with over people I feel I have to put on a brave face & pretend everything is ok. How can I get out of this down in the dumps feeling & be happy?
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Sorry to read you are going through this. The worst thing to do is feel like you are alone. You are not alone. You have a husband and kids who love you and just know there is always someone to talk to. Try using some help sites or help lines if you are that desperate. Sometimes the best thing to do in these situations is open up to the people around you. Don't feel weak, everyone goes through this and i'm sure if you explain how you're feeling to close ones it will be a weight off your shoulders and they may be able to help you through. And just continue what you are doing - staying positive and trying to keep busy because it will pass in time. Fake it till you make it?
Im sorry your feeling like this...
Tiredness can definately cause unbalanced emotions. Does you 1 yo have a nap during the day where you could lay on the couch and relax for a bit? I know as Mums most of us use this time to clean and do washing but that stuff can wait.. you need some time to relax occasionally...
Could you possibly call hubby when he is having lunch or something??
My hubby is out of the house 10hours a day for work and he texts me each break to check in see how the kids are tell me he loves me whatever but it might be a way to have a quick chat :-)
I also agree with fake til you make it..
Hope you feel better soon.
Sounds like me when I had my third baby. I had post natal depression which meant medication however I would recommend talking to your hubby & going to see your Dr. Best wishes it will get easier just takes time!
Hi, I have felt like this on and off since having my two children. What helped me is going back to work part time, this seemed to give me some me time and helped to find me again! I also found when I was feeling really low, to just get out the house and go and meet a friend or just go walking, that really helped lift my mood. Its hard sometimes when you feel like this and it feels like it is going to last forever but it doesnt. I had to go on a low dose antidepressant aswell when I was really low and I also went to some counselling which really helped me work through my feelings. There is absolutely no shame in having to speak to someone when feeling like this. Hope you feel better soon.
How long ago did you stop feeding? If you use a cream called Lansinoh it would heal really quickly or you could just feed from the other side?