first thing is first i am the last person in the world that will ask for help (but first person to offer it) i like to be able to deal with things on my own
my husband has bad depression and i have found myself having to ask for help at the first signs of him having bad days and i feel like i have failed i should be able to help him i should be able to comfort him and say the right things to help but i find myself putting my foot in my mouth and needed help sooner rather than later and i hate it i just dont know how to help.. i dont know if this is a question or me just letting it out in a way my children dont see me cry but i feel like i have failed
FAILURE AS A WIFE
FAILURE AS A WIFE
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I firmly believe that carers (because that's what you are) need emotional support too. It's a hard task watching someone you love in pain and seriously how can carers get it right all the time? We didn't go to uni and get specialist training before falling into our roles it arrived without warning. So we can't fail, because we can't be expected to get it right!
One if the hardest lesson I learnt as a carer was how to get help for myself so I could continue to help my loved one.
Anyway the point of this is I get it, I remember how you feel, I don't feel that way now because I know better now but it was a hard lesson to learn!