I'm not sure if I'm asking a question or really reassurance I'm not alone in how I'm feeling. I have two children a five year old and a ten week old baby. I am feeling completely overwhelmed. I can not no matter how hard I try get on top of all house chores (I'm a stay at home mum). I find I spend my days just trying to settle my baby, she is very demanding at the moment. By the time I get the chance to do housework, I just want a moment to myself. I'm constantly exhausted due to bubs not sleeping well at night. My first baby was a gem, my second bub always has me guessing as to what she wants. I don't really have friends and apart from my kids really only see my husband. I'm completely overwhelmed and not coping well, yet I feel like a failure to say it out loud. My husband doesn't help much and is having difficulty coping with our new bub (which has caused plenty of conflict). I feel things have gotten the better of me, I want to be back on top of everything but just can't find my way there :( My kids are my life and I wouldn't have it any other way, I've just lost myself and any motivation to do the cleaning lol !
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It sounds to me like you're doing a wonderful job! Sounds like you are trying to look after everyone else. F#%k the housework, when your 5 year old is at school/kinder go through maccas drive through, get yourself something nice to eat and go sit at the park with baby for a few hours! Seriously does anyone actually ever get on top of their housework?
Don't worry about the house work, just look after you!
The first few months are just a blur for any mum especially those who already have older children, things will get better. Big hugs to you! Xxxx
You sound like your doing amazing! I couldn't get anything done with my first and you have two and a partner who is to being particularly supportive! Don't worry about the housework it will keep :)
It's only been 10 weeks since u had a baby. A BABY!! U gave birth to a human being! It takes time to get back into the swing of things and each baby is different. They all demand different things from you. Don't get too down on yourself lovely. It's not easy being a mum to not one but two children. I only have one child and I still struggle EVERY day. Just do the things that absolutely need to be done and leave the rest for when you and your new bub are more settled. I have a baby that doesn't sleep and my husband works all the time so I'm pretty similar to you. I spend most of my day trying to settle my baby too.
Just take your time and be kind to yourself. This parenting gig is not an easy job. As long as your children are well looked after and they know you love them to death then the other things like house chores can wait for a little while. Good luck xx