I'm not just an imperfect mum, I am a failure of a mother.
I'm a part-time working mum to have the best of both worlds but there are still dishes in the sink and unwashed clothes, there is things at work that remain u completed.
I am the type of mother that volunteers at school events but critcised for not being involved with the school.
I am the type of mother that wants her kids to succeed but get called for interviews due to bad behaviour and poor academic achievements.
I am the type of mother that enjoys home baking or making things from scratch only to have the kids not eat it.
I am the type of mother that thinks she had a circle of close friends only to post what a failure she is in a mothers group because no one is truly there.
I'm going to smile like nothing is wrong. Talk like everything is perfect. Act liked it's all a dream. Pretend like I'm not dying inside, after all no one can see the failed mum I've really become
a failed mum
a failed mum
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I can't see how you have failed? You sound like a totally NORMAL everyday mum to me.
Failing would be not showing up for those interviews. Failing would be not caring.
Nothing in your post says to me you have failed at anything!
I agree with the above poster! Nothing in your post says you have failed!
I am a SAHM and I too have dishes in the sink and clothes unwashed.
You volunteer at the school when can, that may be less than some, but I'm sure it's more than others, and does it really matter? As long as you're doing the best you can!
Going to the interviews shows you care about how your child is going at school.
I'm a SAHM and I have days that I can't even be bothered cooking, and I only have 1 child. The fact that you work and find time to cook is an achievement!!
You have not failed. You are doing your best and your children will realise this. They are fed, clothed, roof over their heads, and most importantly LOVED.
You are doing a great job.
Sounds like my household - completely normal :)
Hey anonymous, Kelly here. I help Kristy with the running of this page - and your post has really spoken to me.
Big hugs - not a nice place to be questioning yourself - but I don't see you as a failure. Failing is not a bad thing even if you did! It's more of a reflection that something needs to change...
Have you read Suzie's book? She's one of the speakers at our 'The Imperfect Mum' conferences. If you write into the FB page with your address, I'd love to pay for a copy and send one to you. It's called 'Break free from motherly guilt'
Hope to hear from you! And hope the responses on the page help you see you are NOT alone in feeling this way! Your question will be posted later today xKelly
Your close circle of friends might be feeling the same or be amazed at how wonderful you are as a mother, the thought that you need or want help might have never crossed their minds. Women can be (and some men also) very good at hiding what we are feeling and or needing, I recently started asking for help and was amazed by how many people are willing and want to help if you just ask. Mothers that aren't doing a good job tend to be the ones that don't notice, worry or care about the job that they are doing. I have never heard anyone say "I had the best childhood, there was never any dirty dishes or clothes". Cook food you like and if the kids don't eat it at least you can enjoy it (seeing Mummy eating something tends to make it look more appealing).