I recently picked up my three year old daughter after her week with her father only to discover that during that time she had gotten her ears pierced. I felt furious that they had done so without consulting me whatsoever. When I was with my ex we had discussed when we would let her pierce her ears and I had told him that when she was old enough to ask for them (and know what she was asking) and care for them herself would be when I would start to consider it. I always felt that very young children with pierced ears wasn't quite right and that it may be something that she doesn't even want so who were we to make that kind of decision for her. I initially did not say a thing although I was quite ropeable inside. I think I am more upset that the possibility of him and his family making large decisions in her life without my input is a very real thing as we have no court orders or parenting plans. Am I over reacting or should I do something to prevent a larger decision being made without my knowledge?
Ex pierced my daughters ears without my knowledge, can i be upset?
Ex pierced my daughters ears without my knowledge, can i be upset?
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I would also be upset. My ex has not been around since before or little girl was born.
It's one of the issues I am also firmly against. He would only do so to antagonise me. I would get "parenting plans" done. Do mediation a. Relationship Australia does it for no cost.
However even with court orders - there really is no recourse as really the ears get pierced, you spend $$$ saying he should not have without your permission. Judge throws it out of court & you might pay his legal fees. It sux. But what can you do??
Yes. I think you do have a right to be upset. And yes, I would definitely be getting a parenting plan in place so these things don't happen in the future. Hopefully she loves them and is very happy to have them. I'd focus on that, if that's the case.
Wow I would be absolutely furious!! That is appalling behavior on his part. You need a parenting plan, clearly he does not respect your opinions. I dont think you are over reacting, I would have reacted far worse!