I need advice. (Not legal advice as I've done that and plans in place) my ex has 2 nights a week with my son, however he has been increasingly irresponsible with his money to the point where I'm left holding the debt for school books/uniforms/fees. Now usually I would just take it up, pay for it and not say anything, but I recently lost my job and all my savings have been used up to keep us in a house. My partner (who is not my children's father) offers money, but I don't feel like it should be his responsibility to take up my sons fathers expenses. Mostly because while he is paying for it, my ex just continues to use his money for crap he doesn't need, and not on getting his licence back or school stuff or even saving it in case he loses his job (which he is close to as it is) I can't handle the stress. I can make do financially but the mental strain of dealing with his blatant irresponsibility is slowly driving me insane (and not in a good way) to the point where it is a struggle to not take it out on those close to me (and my children and partner, who are completely innocent in this, are the closest). I'm wondering if there is a way to make him pay his due without calling another mediation or going to court.
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I thought that was all included in child support? Make sure your going through CSA and they will take it straight out of his wage.
Unfortunately - if you don't have an agreement as to who pays what (court order/parenting plan) then he doesn't have to pay for anything except his CSA. If you have an agreement about school fees etc, get the school to invoice him directly for his share. CSA does not take into account the private school fees. If you want to make a claim on this, you will need to provide evidence (I got a copy of the signed enrolment forms from the school) they will increase his Child support my half. It's tough going - I have the same issues.
Our plans state he is responsible for half of all school fees, and he has agreed but every time I ask, it's "oh yeah, I needed smokes" or "I forgot" or "I needed to use that to buy food for the boy" it's aggravating.