I need help. So a year ago I finally left my abusive ex. Since it has been a constant battle of trying to get him to stop harassing me. Last time I have had anything was in febuary, his gf added me on fb to "talk" (it was him typing I could tell). So now all of a sudden some guy sends me a friend request, after the girlfriend added me I really amped up my privacy settings, there is nothing public bar one status warning people off adding/talking to me just to pass info back to him. This guy who added me had recent photos of her daughter up and them as friends.
Now normally this wouldn't bother me, except due to the constant harassment by him (20-50 calls and 30-100messages a day) which stopped completely about december, but it seems to be him trying to find out stuff abou me and I just want it to end. I don't want him around me, I had tried to stop everything he did so he could see the kids but he has blown every chance and now I have told him he can go to court or sign orders (he doesn't want parenting orders in place, no matter what they state).
So what do I do? Besides from just delete my Facebook is there anything else? I use it to keep contact with friends and family near and far, and as a way to show my dad updates on the kids as he is travelling. I don't even know if it is enough to speak to the police about, the social worker at centrelink seems to think all of this should be told to the police but i feel I am being paranoid. It is also sending my depression and anxiety into over drive, will it ever end? Or am I best to shut myself off from the world?
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It definitely needs to be reported to police - you are being harassed and possibly a form of stalking. This needs to stop and you need help. This is not something you can handle yourself and you shouldn't have to.
Definitely report to police. Then open a new Facebook account under a different name. Only tell a few select people about this account with high privacy settings. Don't accept friend requests from anyone you aren't close friends with. If anyone starts harassing you always report to Facebook, police and then block them.
Another option is to set up a private closed Facebook group. That you only add people to like your dad who are safe people. Nobody who isn't in the group can see posts or comments in the group. So any photos, updates you want to share go to the group. Make sure you pick a pretty non descript name.
Keep screen shots of everything.
Block him, his girlfriend and all weirdo random people you get friends requests from.
Block his phone number. And go to police and file a dvo.
He can charged with stalking and you can take out a restraining order against him which is what you should be doing. You can't reason with crazy....He needs to get help and calm down before you guys can talk about child sharing
Block his number from your phone, that will help with any future phone calls from him. Keep records of all those previous phone calls if you can. Make note and screen shot for proof. I went through this with my ex and ended up having to block private callers also due to him changing his number to private to get through. I would suggest applying for a restraining order. You definitely have enough cause too and will help to make you feel a little bit more free from him. It can be so draining so hold your head high and keep strong. Good luck! Also maybe change you fb settings so that your profile can't be searched? That will help with the odd friend requests