Concerned and don't know what to do. Broke up with my husband 4 months ago cause of alcohol and anger management issues. It was supposed to be a trial. The main reason I left was to force him to get some help as we have two small children. He was quite selfish and didn't spend heaps of time with them. After I left he had a girlfriend within a month was lying to me saying he wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me or anyone all the time sleeping with her. Has done lots of other bad things such as get my 6yr old to lie for him and say he is somewhere for work while i was sick and was partying in town and couldn't take the kids. Whether it is because of freedom or whether it is because the new girlfriend is as heavy a drinker. He has become a full blown alcoholic and is drinking massive amounts of grog daily I know that from a variety of sources. He only has the kids once a fortnight and I know that he doesnt curb his drinking or the girlfriend when the kids are around. My children are 6 and 4. The 4yr old has autism. I dont know what to do. I know I dont feel they are safe when he has them because of all the drinking.
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relationships australia and/or mediation.
It is why it is always my first suggestion.
Because these challenges actually inflate once out the door if there isn't communication in place and goals through the separation along with mechanisms for them to happen. and it all contributes to the children's safety whether he lives with you or not, you also need to make sure your kids are safe during contact.
Other women ultimately don't come into the equation besides any influence they may have on consumption.
Through mediation you can hopefully have some mechanisms put in place that the children are not exposed to it.
Good luck
definitely mediation, unfortunately like attracts like so his drinking would attract someone drinking, try and get supervised visitation
Are you genuinely concerned for your childrens safety or are you jealous that he moved on so quickly and has a new partner?
I'm still doing mediation with my ex. He is still an alcoholic but the terms are that he is to be sober when he has the kids. He moved in with a suspected child toucher so the other conditions state he is to go to his mothers with the kids if his room mate is in the house and yes I have police regularly check that is what happens. Keep your kids safe and go through the legal process. I kept mine away for 3 months but the way I did it, I know I've saved my child from a risky situation.