IM question!
Emotional infidelity - via email, online etc. Did it happen in your marriage / relationship and could you work through it? Did he reoffend? Did he get better at hiding it? Or did you move forward? If so how?
emotional infidelity
emotional infidelity
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I've been on the other side. Where at least one guy has tried to cheat online with me. I put a stop to it as soon as I realised. Honestly I think if the guy isn't prepared to give me passwords for email accounts etc and be prepared to be very open and be under the microscope until trust was regained I wouldn't try and make it work.
My ex did this. I requested email passwords and Facebook passwords as well as access to his computer and phone at anytime (I would search history which is how I found out), I believe now he got better at hiding it just like everything else. However I was starting to come out of not trusting him but yet another lie and deception was what broke us up. I do believe if he hadn't continued to do things to fuck up our relationship and he treated me with more respect it would have worked out but that's another story.
Did you have a loving connected relationship otherwise??
Honestly it almost brought us closer together before I found out everything else. We talked more openly about what we wanted from our relationship and I put in more effort to give him the affection he needed.
Only you know weather he genuinely wants to mend the damage done Hun... In my experience I got no effort! Just changed passwords, excuses for his bahaviour and no genuine clue how much he hurt me. Good luck...
Yes happened to me. I threw him out. Lies deciet betrayal. No didn't get better. I was thinking it went on for 8 months. Could have been longer. I asked him he denied and said he was entitled to a friend & it went on and on. Wouldn't go to counseling n I decided that I didn't want to live this way and we broke up. I have it a real go he lied lied n covered up n it got more sexy on the texts. Do what you think is right. Good luck Btw I'm totally happy now should have done it earlier :)
Yes this happen to me. My husband and my best friend had an emotional affair which then lead to having sex twice. I had my relationship on a high pedestal, i thought we had an amazing relationship with great communication but i didn't know there were things i did that bothered him so much (not eating properly, not allowing time for myself, stressing so much etc) and visa verse. He admitted it to me and organized marriage counseling for us as he was deeply remorseful and scared of loosing me and our kids. The marriage counseling helped immensely. We decided to try and fix the mess he had made by lots of communication to pin point the reason. We then implement changes, him helping more around the house, which stopped me stressing and allowed more 'relaxation time' or 'us time' once the kids were in bed, he changed his number, gave me all passwords he has, we have date nights every fortnight/month. Out of all the questions that are posted about infidelity i don't think i have ever read anyone saying they have stuck it out, everyone's reaction is run! I wanted to stick it out, surely there has to be other couples out there who have? It has only been 4 months since i found out and it has been absolute hell, i still have my moments where i feel so deeply upset but with regular psychologist sessions for me, lots of communication between us, date nights etc things are getting a little easier. It's completely up to you which way you go and every relationship is different but for me this is one big negative out of a million positive things i could say about my husband. Good luck xxx
Yes it happened in our marriage... But it was by me and I was the one in the wrong. He was extremely hurt by me and we had a very long road to repair. I had to become fully open with him and understand that he had to learn to trust me again. It took a while, every so often when I felt like we were making headway he would back slide a bit and we had to work through it again. 3 years on now there is no sign of it but it took maybe 12 months to be fully back to normal and okay again.
I was married to the love of my life....well I thought so :( I would get on the computer and seen so many wrongs,so I started to keep track of everything, even followed his phone records......long story short found out he was cheating...... tried to make it work but couldn't :)