Im not sure how im feeling right now and now i find out my partners brother has told there mum and the mum has told the nan. The whole family is being told with no consideration as to how i might be feeling. Its not the news to be spreading when obviously the pregnancy wont be kept
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You or hubby need to put a stop to it immediately if you don't want this information shared. Don't mince words, just say this is a private matter and you want to deal with it privately. Though perhaps consider that a) they are concerned for you and want to be supportive, and are sharing the info to ensure everyone is there for you; or b) they don't understand what's going on. Either way, this is your news to share, if and when you feel it's appropriate.
My mum shared it with my whole family, she did it because she knew everyone cared about me and a few months on, I don't hold any grudges.
There was a positive. I am the last family member to be engaged, married or have kids. I'm a couple of years into my relationship but I was with my ex for 8 years, this is the first time in as many years that the continuous, 'when are you getting married' 'when are you going to have kids' 'all the others are married and have kids and it's wonderful' etc etc etc. has stopped. Them knowing has helped me a lot emotionally, as I haven't had to explain to them one by one what happened, or why I get so emotional when talking about having kids etc.
Yes it's your news to share, and very personal and private, but when people are worried, they sometimes don't think of the big picture and the ramifications of what they are doing.
I'm sorry for your loss, make sure you take the counselling offer as it helps a lot to come to grips with what's happening.