Hi ladies, I am a mum of 3 and am really struggling at the moment. I have a 10 week old, 3yo and 10yo and the 10 week old barely sleeps day or night! He just wants me to hold him all day which is impossible as I have the other two to take care of as well. I feel such guilt bcoz I am not there for the other 2 as I should be as the majority of my day consists of trying to get the baby to sleep or feeding baby. I feel like I am starting to resent the baby and even regret having him and then I feel so guilty for having those feelings! I just don't know how to do it anymore, I miss my older two so much bcoz I barely spend any time with them. Things were so much easier when it was just the two of them. How do other mums cope? I just don't know how much more of this I can take, please tell me it gets easier
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Reposted on the facebook site too, with big hugs! This is the hardest time for you (coming from a mother of 4) and I hope you have someone that you are able to have come around and just give you a break... Maybe a date night with the older two? Go out for a special night? x
Have u tryed baby wearing? In a carrier or wrap that way it easier for u to do things with the other kids??
Baby wearing is an option, just research which ones are ok for their hips.
Also my first bubs was much the same until I put her on Zantac. Doc put her on it, but I believe you can get it over the counter now. Totally different baby.
Given it's your third, it's not likely to be anything your doing, so possible something with bub, so a doc trip/Zantac worth a shot.
Let the older two know that your missing them, and try to include them.
Leave bubs to cry for little bits to do whatever you have to do! Bubs won't die from having a cry. I never purposely left bubs to cry when I could go to her as was suggested by my mother so I wouldn't "make a rod for my back by picking up bub every time she cried" as I figured there would be enough times I couldn't get to her naturally that she would learn that sqwark doesn't always mean instant attention. If you are doing something with your kids, finish it, then go to bubs. You will hear if bubs goes from crying to genuine I'm freaking distressed and need you now. You won't be able to resist that cry, even if your on the loo! Lol
So make bub safe, make a cuppa and walk outside where you can hear and smell. Flower or listen to a bird, just for 5 min. It will help you cope better when you do go back inside and resume the madness. It'll get better :)
No advice but just a big hug! From a mum of 3 who struggled myself the first 5 months !!! Most of us been there your not alone!!!!
My number 3 was like that. Use a sling or carrier for baby to sleep so you can still do things with big kids. Make it bout quality not quanity so the bit of time you have with them is special. And just know that it does get easier. I can't say when as it's different for everyone. My number 3 is 11 months & although I found ways to make it work it is now starting to settled down. Time goes so fast so just try to relax don't sweat the small things & try to enjoy it.