We love our children dearly. But does anyone else ever feel like having children was the worst decision you could have made for your relationship? Please, no guilt trips about how lucky we are to have children- we KNOW - I mean, before we had kids DH & I might have one small blue a year, now it seems constant. I don't want to feel like this :(
Does anyone else sometimes feel like the worst thing you and your partner ever did together was have kids?
Does anyone else sometimes feel like the worst thing you and your partner ever did together was have kids?
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Parenthood Guilt
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I want to give you the biggest hug!
Having kids can drive a huge wedge between a couple especially the first few years when your adjusting to less freedom, extra financial pressures, sleep deprivation and that can be made so much worse if you both have different parenting styles and one or both of you aren't living up to the expectations of your partner in the parenting role.
It doesn't have to be like this though if you both decide to change it. You might find a marriage counsellor very helpful in working with you both to get back on track x
Yes I will admit it! I absolutely wouldn't change my kids for the world but far out it's exhausting trying to be the perfect mother and wife, I feel having kids has driven me and my husband so far apart we argue constantly about house work, finances, parenting the kids ect only all the bad stuff there is no time for happy times because kids consume all our time, and if we happen to have a night out something triggers off an argument then the night is screwed!! Don't feel alone having a family is hard work especially if you don't have family around to help out now and then to let you recharge it's sad but I don't think I can keep going in my marriage how it is it's so depressing.... I hope you find a solution good luck
Thank you both for your replies. I really appreciate it. :)
YES! My husband married me when I was financially and emotionally independent. Our needs were small. Then I became a mother a few times over and my needs and emotional dependency increased ten fold. He took a lot longer to catch up to the level of helpfulness and support that our family needed. So we've had a lot of 'blue' times, thankfully it's getting sunnier now.