Sorry could u post this one instead as its my two eldest i have trouble with not my youngest thanks!
I have 3 kids a 1yo, 2yo and a 4yo.
The only way I can get my two eldest to listen to me is by either screaming or threatening to smack . I feel very over whelmed somedays and very guilty as a mother.
I dont want my kids to feel unloved or scared of me! As thats how i felt growing up at times with my dad. So I guess my question is how do I get my kids to listen out of respect rather than fear? Thank you
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Firstly when you tell them to do something make sure you actually have there attention. They are very young children still so get easily engrossed in what they are doing. So when you are going to tell them to do something go over to them and look them in the eye. When you have their attention tell them what to do. Then if they don't do it physically hold their hand and take them to do it. That way they learn that your serious and will follow through. It seems like it takes more time in the beginning but actually it takes less time and they learn to do it rather than time you out.