My 19 year old daughter got a tattoo I hate, I feel really disappointed with her. This has changed how I feel about her... How do I get over this??
My 19 year old daughter got a tattoo I hate, I feel really disappointed with her. This has changed how I feel about her... How do I get over this??
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You get over it by remembering that you were young once and that you did and still do things that not everyone agrees with and that she is her own person and a tattoo does not change who your daughter is. She is still the same person just with decorations. Don't let this come between you
also it is just a tattoo, she didn't murder someone, put it in perspective :)
It's just a tattoo and it's her body. Not yours. Really she's still the same person she's just now covered permanently in some art work. You may disappoint her as well especially with your non acceptance of what she chooses to do. Feelings in turn go both ways. There's no difference in who she is just because she got a tattoo.
Free will, we are lucky to have it. N I guess you need to respect her free will, her choices. She is an adult
She's 19 legally an adult and able to make her own choices
Ok first of all I'm covered in tattoos and at 37 my
Mum still doesn't love them BUT it's on me and was my decision which I'm happy with! My first I got at 18 legal age ( as did ur daughter ) so nothing illegal done on her behalf , anyway I hide mine from my mum until one day I'm having surgery and flash my mum wearing a hospital gown so she knew lol anyway ur daughter has waited till an appropriate legal age, she's hopefully had it done somewere reputable and has taken care of it hygenically wise so there's some positives to show she was mature enough to make the decision I could be all it's her body bla bla but I'm sure u know that what u also know is at that age u can't tell her not to do things she's legally aloud to, my advice u don't have to like it u don't have to be happy but u have to respect she made an adult decision as an adult and respect that! I hope u don't let it spoil ur relationship or put her down or name call we have and all continue all our lives to make decisions that people don't and won't like please please don't make her feel she made a mistake she's got that tat for good now , gd luck accepting the added decoration x
Seriously? A tattoo has changed the way you feel about your daughter? I feel disappointed in you. After the age of 18 our children's bodies are really none our business anymore, understand that and maybe it will help you get over this.
I just need to chime in here - just to say I'd be disappointed too. Looks like you have a lot of negative comments, and I want to let you know I understand. I hate tattoos - I'd rather see the artwork on something else, not on beautiful human skin. There are some gorgeous pictures tattooed onto people and I genuinely appreciate the skill and creativity that go into them, but I just can't seem to come around to liking the look of them on people's bodies. I know tattoos are becoming widely accepted, and all sorts of higher profile people are getting them, not just certain 'types' of people like it was years ago. When I was a kid, I only ever really saw tattoos on bikies, skinheads and trashy bogans haha. That was probably a huge generalisation, even in those days. Maybe remind yourself that in this generation, tattoos are considered less trashy than they were when we were young?? Perhaps that might help you accept it and move on. Your daughter is still the same girl you brought up, just with an expression of herself displayed as artwork on her skin. I hope you can past it soon xo
This comment is disgusting I'm not a so called bogan neither is my husband. I've been working since I was 15 finished yr12 then got a full time job had a baby and went bck to work. Tattoos don't change anyone people need to get there poles out of there butts
Omg get over it she is 19 and still the same person. You should b ashamed of urself not her.
I got my first tattoo when I was 16, my parents HATED the idea of me getting a tattoo at that age, I wanted a tattoo for my grandmother who had passed, I was working full time and was treated as an adult for everything else by my parents other than wanting a tattoo. I asked them to respect my decision (I needed parental signature) or I would go to a back yard tattooist and I wouldn't bother being honest with them again. Needless to say, my mum thought about what I had said and she even paid for the tattoo for my birthday present and my dad come along with me and signed. In the end both me and my parents were impressed with the result and my mum doesn't like tattoos at all. I got another tattoo at 19, and this time my parents helped design it.
have an open mind, in the end it is her body and she will do it, we just prefer to do it keeping our parents respect and love. If my parents changed their opinion on me over a tattoo, I would have been devastated. You don't have to like your daughters tattoo, but if she likes it, you should be happy for her, she has made a decision as an adult and you should always love your daughter. Tattoos are art, they are beautiful and I'm sure your daughter is beautiful too, don't change your thoughts on her over something so silly.
if your love for your daughter is affected by something on her skin you're a disgusting excuse for a parent. shame on you.
I am sure it isn't the tattoo that has changed how you feel about her. Are you sure its not because you are hurt by her getting one. We all want what is best for our children, and hoping they will accept what we say and live life the way we believe is good for them. Try to be proud of her for taking a step into being her own person. We would all love to keep control of our kids, but they need to step out on their own, make mistakes, make good decisions as well. She is creating her own imdividuality. She too may hate the tattoo in a few years, or may still love it. Her decision to get one is not a sign she doesn't love you, and it shouldn't be a sign of you not loving her. Think about what I have said. Please
Why are you disappointed in her?
You should be ashamed of YOURSELF not your daughter.
how many times did you do something your daughter doesnt agree with? And she still loves you. A mother and daughter should have UNCONDITIONAL love. I cant express how disappointed i am in parents like you. My father is the same when it comes to my tattoos. And it makes the kid feel a certain kind of sad that can make you think differently about yourself. Being never good enough. Being hurt badly by the one person who you should be able to trust no matter what. And to know your happy because shes happy. Instead your selfish. Shame on you.