My husband and I have been together the better half of 10 years we have two gorgeous children together, 9 and 2, but I would desperately love a third. But he doesn't. He won't even entertain the idea of it, if I bring it up he shuts me down instantly, "nope, not happening m, don't even ask." Am I being selfish? I've always wanted three kids and that was originally our idea. But he just won't even discuss it and when I ask why he says "because I love the ones we have"
disagreeing over third baby
Saturday, 10 January 2015 - 13:09
disagreeing over third baby
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I can understand your frustration at him not explaining his reasons. But it sounds like he just feels 'done' or complete which some women on here feel like. I personally think the person that doesn't want more kids has the final say because I wouldn't want a baby with someone if I had to talk them into it.
Sounds like he needs to explain his reasons to you a bit better as the one hes giving you doesnt make much sense. Maybe if you understood why he doesnt want any more it would help alleviate your desire for another.
Its very tough for you though and i empathise with you, but i feel it has to be a mutual decision. If you two could just sit down and have an open conversation it would help see things from both sides
Do you have two of the same gender by any chance? It might be a case of him thinking you want another just to get the opposite gender and you'll both be disappointed if it's the same again? I know with us, we had two girls.. Hubby said if he was guaranteed a boy, he would, but didn't want to have another girl as he would feel like he was drowning in women... haha. We did end up having another baby. Years after he said no. He just changed his mind and wanted another one, regardless of gender. Ended up being a boy anyway. Your hubby might change his mind.
No no we have one of each
He still may change his mind! I think both your hearts have to be in it though. Is a big financial jump. House does need to be bigger but we still have a small sedan.
Thank you so much for your support
That was me and my husband. Now I'm pregnant with an unplanned no.3 and he's over the moon and I'm apprehensive about it.