Disabled parenting

Hi lovely ladies (and men?) ?
I'm not really after advice but I felt a need to share a snippet of my life with you all in the hope I might may others think differently of parenting when one partner is disabled.
My partner suffers pain everyday and everyday he deals with it the best he can. There are high and lows and downright ugliness in between I can't put rose coloured glasses on this one. It's tough on him. Everyday. It's the little things, barely being able to drive down to struggling to even walk. Then there are the times I get a glimpse of just how hard it is on him when his leg will fail him and he clutches at furniture just to stop himself from falling. It took him a very long time to admit to himself that he could no longer work, he's only 37. Can you imagine a man not being able to provide for his family and how much that effects him emotionally? Which brings us to depression, anger and a whole lotta emotional struggles that surface.
That time in our little family was a horror story. You see, it not only effects him, it effects me and our child. I struggled ALOT. I have my own issues but was adult enough to just get on with life as my little girl needed me. I was exhausted all the time, there was no break for me. It was on from sun up to sun down. It is what it is I can't complain as we are all doing so much better emotionally and our little girl is getting older so i have more time to help my partner, my partner still suffers physically though. That will never end.
The thing I most wanted to say was I had a friend who didnt understand why I never visited her after the birth of her second son. Why I just gave up on her after being treated like the bad guy with snide comments for not visiting her. I doubt she will ever understand my family life and why I needed some solace, compassion and time to focus on myself and my family.
So if you ever find yourself in this position or know of people who care for their partners that have children too, try and understand. It's tough, and that in itself is an understatement..
To all of you who can relate, I hear you! You are not alone ??