Prep.
I am a single mother of a 4yr old boy. He has had various medical issues and also has high functioning asd. We have been on our own since he was 1. We are super close have an amazing bond. I can not sleep well when he is not home.
He starts prep next year and I'm finding it so hard to let go. So hard to do the paper work and organise going to information events. Not because I can't do the paper work or go. But emotionally hard. No one in my family or friends understand. I know he has to go but I'm struggling to deal with it without crying or becoming emotional.
He goes to kindy fine while I go to uni and he goes to his dad's once a fortnight and too my mums one night a week. Part of me is excited for him to be growing up but then I'm probably not going to have any more children so its mourning also.
I don't have that motherly bond with my mother so I don't know how I'm meant to feel or what's "normal".
So is this normal? Any advice please would be fantastic. Tia.
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Does it matter if it's normal? It's obviously bothering you and that is all that counts. Have you ever spoken to a counsellor about how you feel?
Personally although I was nervous about my son starting school, I was also excited I didn't have problems filling in the forms. We are a very tight unit but I feel it's important that we both maintain our autonomy.
If he's only 4 he doesn't have to go next year, he can have another year at kindy and start prep the following year. It is actually better for boys to start later, both academically and socially