Hi everyone
I am not sure if I want another baby and neither is my husband. We have two beautiful kids (one of each) and love being parents.
Our main concern with having another is the financial implications. We are quite content with our money situation at the moment, but an additional child would add stress - particularly as they get older because there is a very expensive school we would like them to attend.
My question is - did you KNOW you were "done breeding" when you had your last kid? Has anyone decided not to have another, when they were on the fence, and lived to regret it?
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Nope, I didn't 'know' in fact I was pretty sure I wanted more, but couldn't have more. It just wasn't viable for a number of reasons. So I made the best decision I could with the information I had and went with it. I don't have any regrets. I just don't see babies as something we are owed or our wombs tell us we want or not. I love my son more than myself and have sacrificed so much for him but when choosing to have more kids I put that in the same place as buying a big ticket item like a house or a car. It comes down to priorities and not always being able to afford or have everything I want.
But to answer the question, 20 years on for my first and only son I have not regretted the decision.
I've just had our 4th (5 weeks old) and we're done. Hubby is getting the snip.
For us, finances, house situation (we have a 3 bedroom so 6yr, 4yr and 2yr share and the baby had his own) and just the fact that 4 is damn hard. We both liked the idea of big family's too, I'm 1 of 6 and he is 1 of 5 so having a few kids was always on the cards. Personally for me it was 2 or 4 kids, I didn't want 1 and I didn't like the idea of 3 as I think 1 would get left out.
I feel very happy this is my last baby even tho he's only little. I'm looking forward to no nappies or scheduling around nap times.
Age was also a factor, we're both now 33 and although the last pregnancy and labour was very routine I felt it was much more harder on my body and I was more tired than I was in the other pregnancies, which may have had something to do with having to be up and out of the house everyday at 8am and 2.30pm for school pick up/drop off.
Our kids go to a public school so no major schooling cost on out front.