When I was little (6 or so) I was in the bathroom at school. Someone opened the bathroom door (I didn't lock it, it was broken) and proceeded to assault me. I knew the woman who did this, she was a friends grandparent. I also visited their house a few weeks after (I remember telling mum I didn't want to go but not why) and the same woman sat me on her knee and inappropriately touched me. After that I didn't talk to my friend anymore. I have only recently told my parents (19 yrs later) and my husband. No one really seemed to concerned, but it's eating me up inside. I have a daughter and a son, my daughter is starting pre school soon and the thought makes me hyperventilate. Every time I see news stories, FB stories about abuse I feel panicked. I called a counselling helpline and once I said I was assaulted by a woman they seemed to lose interest and said they can't help. What should I do? I don't think reporting it will be the right move for me, I don't think I could handle it. My memories are painful and fractured for a reason I know. Any advice or guidance? Thank you.
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if you are going to get counselling you need to find a professional who specialises in sexual abuse. Phone lines don't like to delve into because they cannot offer continuity of care and they can cause more harm than good in those situations.
good luck with whatever you decide to do.
I was sexually abused as a child as well.
My thoughts.
I know how you feel. I went through the same feelings when I became a parent.
What did I do?
Talked to my kids.
Most sexual abuse is committed by people that are known to the child. They trust them. The child thinks that someone who knows them wouldn't hurt them.
Tell them what 'nice' touch and 'yucky' touch is. That NO ONE is allowed to do yucky touch. I also told them is anyone tried to do yucky touch to tell me straight away!
I had five kids. Three of them are adults now. I've made it through.
I am yet to receive counselling for my experience either, so I can't comment there. However, it's been over 30 years and I'm thinking about it.
Can't hurt? Right?
Might be worth considering?