Hey all you wonderful mummy's, just wanted to say you are all doing an amazing job, all the advice I've seen you guys give each other is absolutely amazing!! You've all helped me out heaps as well :)..
I do have one other question and was wondering if you guys could once again lend me some advice.
My daughters father and i have orders were our daughter (4yrs) goes to her father's from friday to wednesday every second week but we recently had a fight because i found out she isn't in his care from friday to tuesday morning. I told him it was irresponsibly to ask for so much time with her and just leave her with other's including his 21 yr old girlfriend (who has no experience and my daughter isn't comfortable with at all and doesn't want to go anymore because of her). I asked him to change order's to the days he has off work (tuesday morning to thursday lunch time) but he was apprehensive about it because he didnt want to look time with her (go figure right)... Since our fight he hasn't shown up to pick her up friday or this morning (tuesday) nor has he contacted me back and has asked that i dont text him or call him any more, how do i explain this to my daughter? Whay do i do from here? What do i say when my daughter asks about dad and seeing him if he never shows up again? My poor girl deserves so much better!!
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You're right... She does deserve better :-( all you can do is explain it in an age appropriate way and you will notice when she gets really overwhelmed. Just STOP whatever you are doing and just hug her. All you can do is comfort her. The biggest heartbreak is seeing your child's heart break before you. Good luck mumma
It is the absolute worst when their father is the one who makes them hurt, but you are the one who has to pick up the pieces! Good luck with this situation and I really hope for yours and your daughters sake, he changes his mind and his days and makes an effort to see her
I don't blame you for not sending her. You as her Mum should always be the first option to be looking after your daughter if Dad is working. Just tell her Daddy is working & you don't know when he will be seeing her next. He may or may not change his mind about seeing her. I agree with others it's not a good idea to run Daddy down as that only causes your daughter pain so be careful how you talk to her about it all. Good luck, she is lucky to have such a caring Mum.