Hi IM's! Please no harsh comments.
me and my ex have a 6 month old child, within that time, i have gotten an intervention order out on him and almost went back to extend but have been to stressed to add it to my list.
I have our child full time and he lives 2 hours away, he usually comes down once a week for about 3 days, during that time i am always present.
He now wants to spend alone time with our child and i'm more than happy to do that, but not 2 hours away as my son will not cope being that far away from me as it would have to be overnight stay.
He cannot stay at my house due to the intervention order.
it is well known that he smokes pot and im fairly certain if he was alone with our son he would.
he suggested his brothers house in the town i live in, but it isnt child safe and my son is very close to crawling.
the ex has no formula, nappies, clothes, toys, bottles, etc and expects to me always supply these at every visit no matter what.
I do not want my son to not have a relationship with his father, but its becoming apparent that he doesn't really seem to want to put in any effort.
every time hes been at my house, he would leave things like pens, plastic bags around in arms length of our son.
what should i do? should i just suck it up and do court orders etc? and whats the process?
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Yes it sounds as though court orders will be essential. Tour best bet is to ring legal aid and they will advise you. Usually the first step is mediation. Without court orders I would advise you not to let your son go alone with him. Get some legal advice. I have sole custody because of child abuse.
You can't get court orders without going through mediation first. So phone a family dispute resolution service and get the mediation process started. I agree 6 months old is probably a little young for overnight stays. Mediation is the time to stipulate everything that needs to happen in order for him to spend more time with the baby.
Be careful with the intervention order. I don't know what yours says but if you are breaking any of the terms in the order it can reflect badly on yourself especially if you try and get it extended. Is supervising your child with his father currently breaching the orders?