Hi IMs Im so greatful to have you's atm I badly need to talk about this but have no close friends or family I would feel comfortable saying any of this to. I caught my partner taking something today and when I walked in he tried to hide it. After a strong history of drug abuse and getting clean for our kids I couldn't let him off the hook I had a look and it turned out it was only legal 'male performance enhancers' he acted real casual about it all said he'd only been taking them a few weeks since he started going to the gym. I'll admit we have had sex 3 times in the last few weeks and it's been quite enjoyable he even innitiated it himself for the first time in years and he has been going to the gym up to twice a day. I'm just confused mostly as to why he didn't tell me when I asked he said "its my money I'll do with it what I want" which seems like an avoidance, like baiting me to pick a fight over family funds rather than answering the question? And I know sex drive can be a common problem for lots of men and something most don't want to talk about but we've been together 6 years and have children together, I feel like it's a betrayal of our recently repaired trust to order any kind of drug and try to hide them from me! And the petty self conscious post twins body part of myself feels ashamed that best case scenario my partner needs to take drugs to have sex with me. Worst case scenario he's still not being honest and open with me about God knows what else if he can't even share this with me. Ahhh I just don't know what to think. Help!!!! Please tell me I'm being freeking rediculous!!!!
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First of all u need to stop and think about how well u know this man. Which hopefully is very well. Then answer your own questions from his point of view. As if u were him doing what his doing. And there u will have your answer. If u r having some trust issues coz of the past my only advice is give him the benefit of the doubt and know that in the end you will know the truth. Don't attack or question everything he does, try n show him more love and support n tell him u want to be open n honest with each other no matter what it is u will do ur best to work on it and nit fight or get upset. And hopefully this will help u both when it comes to things like this. But u have to be able to do this. Or u will just end up being someone to him that can't be fry to their words. If u can be true to ur words he will trust u n if he trusts u he will open up to u. And u him. Good luck
Could he possibly be embarrassed to tell u? It would probably be hard on his ego needing to take them in the first place. I'm almost certain it has absolutely nothing to do with you. As men age it becomes harder for them to obtain an erection or get in the mood.
My husband has a medical condition and the past couple of months his erection doesn't seem as hard as it used to. I took this so personally and thought he no longer lusted over me. After talking to our gp, it's a very common issue with his medical condition.
Just don't be to hard on him, he's obviously taking them as he wants to have an amazing sex life with you. I kind of think its pretty selfless. He wants to make u happy mumma! Try not to over think this one xo