I desperately need help with my 2 almost three years old twins behaviour! And how to save my own mental health while I get through it!
I have just increased my hrs to full time at work, have a new au pair and their dad - went off the rails for the last 6mths - is slowly sorting himself out and in their daily life more, so we have had a lot of changes and my girls are driving me insane:( most days I feel like they are constantly being told not to do something, they ignore me until they get put in a naughty corner or bed where they throw a tantrum... If I get them to 'help' they throw a tantrum if I want something done differently to their way:(
I know this has a lot to do with age and everything going on, I just don't know how to deal with it:(
I don't feel like I have fun with them anymore:( I'm tired and I'm cranky, and they are plan cranky!
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Here is what works for me. Lesson demands on them for a bit. Pick your battles, if there way gets it done let them do it that way. Make sure you have there undivided attention when you ask them to do something say it short sharp and sweet. eg get your shoes. Count to three and when they don't do it, take them to do it. Yes there will be tantrums but making them do as there told is far more effective in our house than a time out because they didn't actually complete the task, therefor getting away with it!
My friend has triplets and she always divides them up. Sends one to get one thing, another gets sent to do something else etc that way they its more difficult to tag team her.
At this age I also found child proofing everything saved my sanity. Locks on rooms I didn't want them in, things put away that I didn't want touched etc. Otherwise I found I spent my day putting out fires. Also the more time they are at the park, outside playing etc, riding on bikes the better, much less time to make mischief and get up to shit.
What she said.