Convincing husband that its time to start trying for baby number 3

Anon Imperfect Mum

Convincing husband that its time to start trying for baby number 3

Hey Everyone. I guess I'm just looking for advice on what you would do in my situation...

Just a little extra info here... Hubs and I have been together for 10 wonderful years (married for almost 2) and are still madly in love... We have beautiful 4 and a half year old twin boys who are our miracle babies we didnt think we would ever have. When my boys were 5 months old i had my right ovary and fallopian tube removed due to very large cysts and my left ovary is going down hill solwly but surely. My doctor has now given me a 6-12 month 'window' of trying to conceive naturally with success. (He comes with me to the doctor so he knows how serious it is). I'm almost 26 and my husband is 27.

So for the past 2 and a half years i have been trying to convince my husband that baby number 3 would be a wonderful idea. When my boys were 2 it was all i thought about... I have always wanted a big family with lots of kids running around. He always knew this and i always made it very clear. Anyways from the moment i started suggesting it his answer has always basically been "no effing way, I'm so done!" It took me a good 9 months to settle down on the nagging and i finally began to realise that it would always just be the 4 of us and I started to feel so greatful and okay with that (although number 3 was always on the back of my mind). Through the last 18 months i would still bring it up every now and then and the answer would always be "No, don't even bother trying to convince me!"

So fast forward to now and my period is 6 weeks late... This is NOT unusual for me... I am quite used to it being this late but hubs and I were in the shower last night and i mentioned that my period was so late and it was frustrating for me to not know when it was coming. Then i joked and said "Imagine if i was pregnant, you'd probably flip!" and he said "No i wouldn't, if it happens, it happens, I am not totally against it." so i asked why we can't start trying for one and he said "He wouldn't mind having another baby but It's just not the 'right time' for us right now."

So... now that i know that he isn't totally against the idea of having baby number 3, my feelings have come back and i want to start trying more than ever! I'm worried that it will be too late for me by the time he decides when the "right time" is for us. Like really, whats the difference between trying now or in 6 to 12 months time. What if in the time being my only ovary left decides to shit itself... My chances are already so low on conceiving with only one ovary and a period every 6 months. I just dont know how to make him see that my time is running out!!! He doesn't seem to understand that im on a time line here or it will be too late!

Sorry for the rant but what would you ladies do? Thanks so much for any advice and please be kind.

Posted in:  Relationships & Marriage, Health & Wellbeing, Pregnancy, Kids

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Take him to the doctors with you. Get the doctor to explain the situation. Sometimes when it comes from a specialist it sinks in more.

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