A bit of background.... My husband and my 11year old dd have always had a tough relationship, they fight and yell constantly, about 12months ago it got physical and he punched her in the arm. I packed up the kids and left the next day. He went to counseling and we reunited but the relationship between my husband and my dd is still the same, yelling, screaming at each other. I am now at my wits end. I cant handle it anymore, I am sick and tired of trying to diffuse the situation. I feel as though I am stuck in the middle between them. He has never been violent before or since, but I am scared it will happen again. My relationship with all my children is suffering, and my daughter blames herself and thinks she is a horrible person. I no longer look at my husband the same way. I feel so completely lost and am unsure of what I should do....
Conflict between Husband and daughter? What can I do?
Conflict between Husband and daughter? What can I do?
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Try relationships australia, and do family councelling, its reasobably cheap.
Id also consider living separetly then ur husband as ur daughter needs a safe place n i doubt she feels that at home with ur husband. Its not full term just until they can start to get along, but ur husband needs better coping stratigies then yelling as once ur yelling no one is listening.
Hugx
Your husband is a grown adult, if he is incapable of acting like one then I would suggest a trial separation. Your daughter is a child and while I'm sure she contributes to the situation she cannot be held accountable. Also having been violently assaulted by your husband I can't say I blame her for having a problem with him.
Its a very hard decision but I would hope that if it came to it you'd choose the wellbeing of your child over your husband.
It sounds like a very stressful household and you need a break from this stress.
You say he went to counseling but I think he and your daughter should go to counseling together.
If you're not comfortable being there, and your relationships are suffering, leave... I think you already know you need to, but are looking for confirmation... If there is any worry in your mind about it getting physical again, it's not worth being there... Good luck xx