just wanting to get other mums opinions and thoughts on having a child in the birthing suite during labour? what age do you think is appropriate if you think is appropraite at all?
just wanting to get other mums opinions and thoughts on having a child in the birthing suite during labour? what age do you think is appropriate if you think is appropraite at all?
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My son was 2 when he came with me to see my nephew born, he was well behaved and not scared by it, my sister kicked him out in the end though, I plan to take him when I have our next one he will be 5&1/2
I have had 3 boys now in a birthing suite and they were such different experiences. For me birthing a baby can be a loud experience with lots of facial contortions (read expressions of pain) that even my partner found difficult at times. So for me, I wouldn't want my kids to feel helpless like he did; even though he really understood what was happening and that it was part of the process.
My partner was traumatised by the birth of our daughter. He cried because he couldn't do anything for the pain. I was quite loud and so was the other lady in labour down the hall! I don't think it's appropriate at all for a child to see that. It could be very upsetting for them. My thinking is that eventually they will have their own children and be able to witness birth then.
I've given my partner a free pass for the birth of our next child!
I personally don't think it's appropriate at all.
I think it depends on age of child... Great birth control for teens or pre teens.
if they can understand what's to be expected then I don't see a problem. My main concern would be if something went wrong how would they cope then?
besides that I don't see a problem.
I recently had our 3 rd bub and both my other children came in to hospital within the hour after I was out of recovery, they are 6 and 3 and struggled with just seeing me in bed not able to move and also the following few days. I think they would struggle with being at the birth
My girls are 10,12 and 14. I asked if they wanted to see the birth, they said no, they didn't want to see me in that much pain, and thinking about it, they have cried when seeing me in pain with my back (sciatica that was like electric shocks constantly spasming due to muscle spasming on the nerve)
Also my last birth, my uterus didn't contract and it got very scary. Mum had to leave the room as she couldn't cope seeing me loosing the blood. Mum was there for my three daughters being born and whilst she wouldn't change it, she says it's really tough to watch your daughter in so much pain and not be able to do anything.
I am not sure my now husband (I'm re-married) is going to cope tbh. I think he will spend most of the time in the hallway pacing. So yeah, I'm glad the kids won't be there in the end, and I think it's too much for them to see you in so much pain, then it's too scary if something does go wrong, and lets fact it, a lot of times something goes wrong.
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I have had all my children at each of their siblings birth. From my son who was 13 being there when his brother was born all the way through to baby boy number 4. In my opinion siblings should meet their new sibling immediately and share that amazing love and warmth everyone has after a new bubba is born.. Oh talking about this makes me want another one!!
Personally no. Things can go wrong, you don't want to be rushed out and let them see that or worse yet they see the baby die etc. It does depend on the child but I think it wouldn't be nice to see your mum in pain!
I had my two daughters with me (aged then 9 and 10) when I had my son. They asked if they could come. I explained the process and what might happen and they chose to be there. Kids learn about the human body and where babies come from as young as pre-school now. As far as I was concerned it was a family moment and it was fantastic! They helped all through the process and were right there when he arrived. I had an adult support person there as well and a beautiful midwife who coached us all through. It hasn't scarred them. It's called life and learning.
i think it is personally upto u no1 can tell you if your doing the right or wrong thing you know your kids best would it traumatise them noone knows only you can answer that. That is like people telling me when i fell pregnant with my 3rd that my toddler who is still exclusively breastfed that she wouldn't be up their when i gave birth i told everyone where to go jump if i went into labour in the middle of the night how would she get boobie when she woke up. (number 3 is no longer on the way i had a miscarriage and my little girl still came to the hospital with me when in complete agony and she was fine she cuddled me and kissed me and cried with me when we explained what was happening she was more support than my partner) go for it if you feel your child get do it and wants to be there :D
I am completely against it unless they're older. But I may have to have my 2 girls in the room when I have my 3rd because my 2nd was born. In the front seat of the car labour was too quick