My family and I have recently relocated for my work after living in one spot for 7 years. It appears the move has been great for my 11y/o Little Miss but my 8 y/o Little Man is really struggling even after been here 3 months now. The school they have started in is good but Master 8 is been bullied at school, hubby and I have spoken with his teacher and principal but the bullying has escalated where he was picked up and thrown and also punched in the nose on two different occasions. His mood swings dramatically, he doesn't eat his school lunches(hasn't done for four weeks) he has mentioned self hurt twice, he has begun faking sickness to remain at home and flat out told me today he doesn't want to go to school anymore. It is breaking my heart, this IM is at a loss and is in dire need of advice.
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Please take your son to a gp and get a referral to a child psychologist. Also have you thought about reporting the bullying to the police as well? Child protection unit does follow these things up. it doesn't sound like he is doing well at all :( I hope a psychologist can help him x
I spoke with the school well being officer last week and she is monitoring his behaviour at school and informed me that he appears quite happy go lucky at school and it's quite common for kids to lash out at home where they feel safe and comfortable. My hubby took him to the gp yesterday and explained the situation including the "nausea" the gp thought it was most likely a form of anxiety.
Why aren't they monitoring the bullies behaviour? Most kids don't want a melt down in front of other kids. Doesn't make how he feels any less real. Hope you get through this.
My son was bullied in 2 different public schools. Neither wanted to admit "bullying" otherwise they would be forced to do something. He also didn't want to go to school. His "fake" sick was not so fake. It was a physical reaction to the stress of going to school. When he stayed home, he was fine and symptoms disappeared. Ask him everyday when you pick him up what happened that day and deal with it before you leave school grounds. Record names and dates. Take him to GP if he is physically assaulted. No one should have to put up with this for even a day. It even happened in the classroom in front of the teacher where the kid broke his glasses. My son had to apologise to the bully for touching his stuff. He was only trying to help clean up. We told our son to hit back & it was the only way it stopped or became manageable until we could get him in a private school. (last resort). He got in a physical fight, bruised and bleeding. The school never even called me. I found out when I picked him up. They were very apologetic about his injuries, but couldn't be bothered to give him a bandaid. My son was smiling from ear to ear because he stood up for himself. The bullying was far less from that point. The private system does not tolerate any bullying in our experience. I truly hope it doesn't come to this for you. Once he was in a safe learning environment, his grades improved and his self confidence grew. He became a who different kid.