Hi I'm just after other peoples opinion on how to handle this situation.
My dd (7yrs nearly 8) is in Year 2. She really really doesn't like her teacher (has been saying all year "I hate her" (no a sentence I like them to use) and is beginning to hate school.
My dd has always liked school but is really struggling with her teacher this year. Her teacher is very strict (down to what colour hair ties they can wear), otherwise the teacher seems nice enough. My daughters way of handle It is with a bad attitude and sulking - this just seems to get her into more trouble and it's now affecting the way she interacts with other teachers and students.
I have been pulling her up on her bad behavior and discussing with her how sometimes you have to deal with people you don't like and yes you still have to listen to the teacher.
How would you handle the situation?
On one hand I want her to just suck it up and deal with it, all thru her life she will meet people that she doesn't like but will have to put up with. On the other hand it's horrible that she is so upset and hating school I would hate this to affect her future schooling.
There is nothing else particular going on in her family life, she is not being bullied, she is not bulling and seems to be getting on fine with her friends. The problem is simply she hates her teacher. (Yes I'm talking with the school & teacher trying to work out a solution)
Any suggestion you could offer?
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I think Id be dealing with it the same as you. If this teacher is unrealistically strict (has dress code rules beyond the schools dress code) then that is ridiculous and needs to be mentioned.
But yeah agree not every teacher is going to click with every student every year (some kids thrive under strict teachers) and it sounds like it might be your daughters year not to click (although the hair tie thing sounds ludicrous, who would even notice).
We went through this last year - although it wasn't until later in the year that it really caused any problem. We had the fake illnesses when I'd ask her to put her uniform on (despite being perfectly happy and wolfing down breakfast just prior) and some tension in the classroom between my daughter and the teacher, and also between my daughter and her friends. It was a tough year, and I'm soooo glad it's over. All I could do was remind her that some years you get a teacher you like and enjoy, other years you don't. So we used to visit her old teachers occasionally after school just for fun, and spend time imagining what her new teacher next year might be like. Thankfully, she got a good one this year. We also used to chat a lot about the fun things about school - the classes she did with other teachers (music, sport, library etc) and what she got up to at lunchtimes. Shifting that focus seemed to help. Your situation seems a bit more extreme though, and earlier in the year. Hope you work it out xo