Hello sisterhood
After some advice on behalf of my sister.
She split from her hubby about 6 years ago and since then she has done everything for those kids. He saw them every 2nd weekend for a while, then moved states with no warning so was away for about 3 1/2 years.
He hasn't paid for much at all, with child support seemingly unable to get anything off him, nor able to deduct anything from his wages. This guy is a qualified builder, but chooses to work low paid jobs (I personally think he's a lazy turd...)
My sister doesn't earn a whole heap, and I am amazed and proud of how she manages her money and provides for those kids...
But now, because he has "declared" a lower income, regardless of the fact that he has the ability to earn more, or the fact that he has a partner paying for half of his fixed costs (rent etc) she has to pay him??? She has one child full time, and they share the other child 50/50... BUT she still pays for all uniforms, still takes them and pays for their sports, school books, excursions etc...
And now, child support are threatening to freeze her bank accounts if she doesn't pay up even though she literally won't be able to afford her rent...
What can she do? It seems that the good guys get screwed over...
5 Replies
Pay up and take him to mediation so they know who pays for what. He should be paying at least half the school fees etc. In the meant time make sure she only pays her half of fees for sports and tell dad to pay his half.
Take the partner out of the situation, makes no difference what so ever.
what I would do would also depend on how much Im told to pay
Your sister is venting. As a result there are details you dont have unfortunately to even start sifting out where to begin.
I'm guessing the other child isnt his child. Ages are also a factor in both amounts and if there is even a liability including if the child is working.
She can actually have the costs of the child taken into account in the assessment.
Does he see the child regularly? I had to tell them how many nights a week or month my daughter was in my care if mum has the child more regardless of income he would have to pay ( my ex is a doll bludger i work full time he pays me) something doesnt sound right based on the information given either by your sister to you or by child support. Id be asking for a re assessment its not a purely income based it's also care based.
Child support are a joke. We are currently going through problems with them. My other half has always paid child support on a regular basis. However in the past 2 years they have decided he should pay almost half of his wages to his 16 year old daughter. Her mother has taken her away & he no longer has any idea where she is.
We have 2 children together & will possibly now lose our home because csa are taking so much of his wage. We have spoken to them several times because his wage has decreased but the amount they take has increased rather than lowered. We have told them we are struggling & that we can't afford to live, their answer is it isn't their problem. His ex is earning a high wage but this apparently isn't taken into consideration. He is happy to pay child but not at this ridiculous high rate.
Good luck with your issue but they are a total nightmare to deal with.