my 2 yr 9 month old son just started daycare 1day a week about 6 weeks ago. at firs he was fine going and excited about it but now he doesn't want to go and gets so upset distressed about it. today he was so upset from the second he woke up and was hesterical all the way there in the car. when we got there he was still hysterically crying and wouldn't settle down so I ended up taking him home and not going to work. when I speak to the daycare teachers they say he is really quiet and doesn't play with the other kids. has anyones child done this what is the best way to deal with it? should I try a different daycarcentre or stop all together?
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Oh Hun! Just wanted to say I'm sending you hugs. Daycare is a really tough step for the little ones but especially on the mums when they don't enjoy it. My daughter is almost 2, it honestly took her 4 months to stop screaming. I still feel absolutely guilty and horrible every time I send her (3 days a week) even though I know the centre is great and she enjoys it now. If it makes you feel any better my daughter still doesn't play with the other kids too. Not all kids are easily adaptable social butterflies. Although it would make our lives easier if the were. I wouldn't worry so much about him not socialising at his age they often still play alongside each other instead of with each other. If you're considering a move, maybe look into family dc. He might respond better to a more one on one type environment. Or go back to the orientation and start again with spending half a day with him there until he settles? Ps it took my daughter a few months to even make a sound at daycare because she was overwhelmed by it all. He will get there eventually xx
Change daycares or show up unexpectedly to see for yourself how the day is going. I had the same issue and found the problem was the group leader. she didn't. Connect. With my child and pretended all was Rosie and it was just the drop off that was an issue. She cried all day but GL claimed she stopped after I left. Over a month I dropped in to check on her randomly after suspecting they were lying to me. Each time she was upset and each time the way the GL was "dealing" with her was not as nurturing as I the other rooms GLwere. I changed centres as the change was amazing. She started enjoying going. It could just be the lack of days but also a clash as was with my daughter.
Hi. My daughter was the same it was only until we changed childcare centre's that she blossomed. ... they also recommend that they attend childcare for at least 2 days a week to get them used to it, 1 day is too long in between. Hope things work out.