I have been here and got marriage advise before. I know I need to leave if I am to keep my own self and my daughters respect.
My husband is emotionally abusive and controlling. He is the supreme manipulator and has me believing it will change so easily I am questioning my own actions time and time again.
He has tonight told me that my parents are no longer welcome and he never wants to see them again. (They have stayed with us over school holidays to baby sit, my daughter has been in grandparent heaven)
My question is. How do I afford to leave?
What do I receive from Centrelink NSW. I work 15 hours a week, but renting costs $300.
I hate to make it about money, but I need to know I won't be destitute.
I am so overwhelmed. ?
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I am so sorry that you are going through this, my heart goes out to you and also sending you hugs. There should be a dv centre somewhere close by to you I would try and see them. Is there a chance you have family close that you could stay with. Not much help I know.
The centrelink website has an online calculator. How much you get will vary on age of children, how many children etc.
You should be entitled to rent assistance, parenting payment/newstart (depending on age of kids), and FTB's. Also check with your local housing authority for any support they can give, and DV places.
Don't be afraid to move somewhere really small. Being out and in a one bedroom place is better than being in an abusive relationship. You won't be well off but it is definitely doable.
Do the online calculator. It's pretty accurate. You'll be likely entitled to parenting payment/Newstart (if child is over 8) rent assistance and FTB A & B. You can also apply for child support. It'll be tight but you can do it. Give Centrelink a call on Monday if you can.