Sorry this may be long.
So, my husband and I have one son (from a previous relationship of mine). We have just started discussing having a child together, maybe two. I am so happy but I feel this shadow of absolute terror behind me.
DH's mother is unquestionably the most horrible person I have ever met. She is passive aggressive, hurtful and very sneaky. For a bit of background: she was known to get violent with her children like smashing dishes at them when they didn't want help with homework, terrifying her children using swords and masks when they would misbehave through the night, and any time anyone did ANYTHING to upset her, she would scream, cry and bash her head with a hairbrush until it bled. No, im not joking, she is crazy. She refuses to seek help for possible bipolar and mentioning it sets her off.
She even used to call DH "pig" as a nickname and would laugh at him as he was overweight, and even bought him pigs ears for Xmas and his birthdays.
This woman hates me. I love my husband with all my heart, and have brought him to tears just by showing him kindness. She refuses to speak to me anymore, but has tried to break us up by lying to each other about the other one. (Apparently he was cheating and I'm a big fat liar) but nothing worked thanks to it being crystal clear with evidence to the contrary.
She didn't show up to our wedding since she had made "other plans" that weekend and then texted everyone that attended an hour before our ceremony that I had cut her out of DH's life and I am a horrible person and how distraught she is.
So now you understand why I don't like her. I should mention that hubby has always defended me, and has cut off most contact with her as she consistently tries to cut us both down, but I have always pushed him to make whatever decision he wants.
Now finally to my fear. I am terrified she will take us to court once we have kids. I would hate for her to have contact with our children, simply due to her insane and abusive nature, but she is good at lying and manipulating.
She pretends my son doesn't exists as he is a "bastard child" but then I believe she would fight for visitation just to hurt us, and if she got it, God only knows how she would emotionally hurt our babies.
I'm slowly pieceing my husband back together from his childhood traumas, I don't want our kids to go through that too - help!
Any advice would be so amazing.
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She could take you to court but they usually don't get very much if anything.
One mum on here, the grandparent got to send a card for birthdays etc, that's it!
When they do the psych reports assessments they are really good at seeing through people and would take hubbies history into account.
Tbh it sounds more like borderline than bipolar.
Your not separated she can try but if there is no relationship established there are no grounds for her to force one and if she tries he can testify to the abuse
If you have documented evidence of her psychotic behaviour no judge would ever allow her visitation. If you don't have evidence documented start now and keep it in a safe place for if the worst should happen. As is mentioned since she has no established relationship with the future child/ren then I doubt she would achieve anything with her actions. Good luck with it all <3
Oh how this sounds like my husbands mother. NASTY COW!! Don't let her belittle you. Your kids your rules. I'm sure your beautiful hubby will side with you.