What do I do? My husband and I recently separated. He has caused me a lot of emotional pain (he cheated) and now I just want him out of my life as fast as I can. but it seems he's just taking his time to answer my questions regarding finances and shift rosters and when he's picking up the rest of his stuff. he has not been remorseful at all and still is involved with the ow. We have an almost 3yo together. So my question is...is it bad if I don't call my ex to say goodnight to my child? I feel so guilty about this. I miss my little one so much (we have 50/50 care). But it hurts to have to call ex to talk to my son. For the record, my son seems to cope well with 50/50 atm. And if I suddenly don't call can I start calling again in a few months when I start to heal? Ex only sporadically calls son when I have him, sometimes not all all.
Thanks for your help
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You do what you need to do to help you heal babe! Your son won't notice that you don't call to say goodnight so please don't stress.
Of course it's ok to start calling after you feel you can, you should never feel that you need to explain your actions to anyone! Everything will be ok as well I promise, you will have an amazing life in no time flat and this will all just be a story to help another newly single mum through what she is going through :) xx
If your son is fine don't ring. Some kids it's better not to phone. Not ringing doesn't make you a bad mum and you are hardly going to ring every night your son is at his dad's for the rest of his life?
Its not about u or u ex its about ur child and whats best for the child. U were adult enough to have a child then b adult enough for the child no matter how hard it is.