While surfing the net today,i came across an article about "Birth Shaming". I had no idea this kind of thing actually existed. Has anyone had this happen to them? if so....how did you deal with it?
http://www.womenshealthmag.com/life/birth-shamed?adbid=10152865583036788...
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I didn't experience it, if people were judging I didn't notice. I have to admit people who would likely to be that way inclined learnt to avoid me long ago as I'm all about the science, numbers and facts. So we would have been a personality clash right from the start lol
Yes I always get that look of horror when ppl ask about my birthing experience. But when the dr says ur baby needs to come out now or their going to die u just say do what ever it takes to keep the baby alive which for me resulted in a csection. I was talked into by other women telling how much I lost out on the next time round and tried natural again which ended in another emergency section. By the 3rd my view was Iam having a section if u don't like it then F off. When other mothers ask me I still get the oh u poor thing u didn't get to experience the joy of giving birth naturally but u know what I don't care, I have 3 healthy children and that's all I wanted during child birth.
I have a horror story for my first bub I ended up with no time and only having the option of a natural birth for months after I was so angry with the hospital/drs but now that I'm pregnant with number 2 there's no way in hell I'm not doing it naturally I think for myself I felt quiet empowered that I had just delivered this little screaming bundle of joy into the world myself plus there's an upside to all natural you can literally get up straight away not that you want to but you're not bed ridden with others helping with what you should be doing that's just how I felt each to their own. Good luck on you're journey
I wanted to go naturally if possible but with an open mind to taking it as it went. I had a few people remind me there's no medals for toughing it out. I ended up getting an epidural and am proud of my experience. I would do it the same way next time too. Although preferably with a shorter labour!
I have experienced 'birth shaming' in relation to my second child's birth, although was unaware it was a 'thing' until i saw this post. My first bubs birth was a horror story, to the point that it took 14 MONTHS (No joke) to physically recover and not crawl to the toilet every time nature called. This was all caused by a twisted uterus, and a trainee dr who made a mess of my bits. I decided no more babies after that, but we had a pleasant and frigthening surprise 18 months later. Straight away i requested a c section, and had many many ppl, told me how much of a sook i was, that i was taking the easy way out, and that i should never have gotten pregnant if i didn't want to do it the 'right' way. Generally i just ignored them, and try to remember i did the right thing for myself, my body and most importantly my babies, as with a cesarean, it was only 6 weeks recovery til i could be a fully functional pain free mum, instead of 14 months again. And luckily my husband was able to take that time off from work, to help in those first few vital weeks anyways.