My husband has far surpassed my expectations for disappointment on my birthday. I recently turned 30 and I have to say was the worst birthday I've ever had. It started the night before while I mentioned how I was going to have a quiet day on my birthday given DS1 was going back to day care, to which he responded no you're not, you have housework to do.
The morning was lack lustre where I made my own coffee and he left for work with a quick peck and happy birthday afterthought as he ran out the door. The day was spend cleaning and preparing dinner, of which he didn't eat but rather got left over take away and ate that while I was making dinner (which was supposed to be his favourite!). I then bathed DS2 and got him ready for bed, bed time came and went and that meant lots of settling. DS1 was then showered and got ready for bed which I also did by myself and did his bed time. The whole time DH was laying on the couch asleep.
Welcome to my 30s - the rest of my life being not appreciated.
Birhday Disappointment Vent
Birhday Disappointment Vent
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Give him a kick up the arse! How disrespectful & unloving. I'd never accept that kind of behaviour from my husband.
Perhaps for your 31st birthday you should ignore the housework, take the kids and do what you want to do. Your husband can either fit in and have fun or eff off.
And on his next birthday hand him a mop. :)
Happy 30th birthday! Maybe organise a high tea with your mum, family, or a friend and just go out on your own to make the day. Men are dumb! Make sure you have a level conversation with him, he probably doesn't even get it. I wouldn't do the revenge thing it will just make family life hard for no real reason, and pretty sure you wouldn't get much from it .
I did find that 30 was a hard age for me, I was a mum of 2 married for 4 years and kind of mourned my old life. I think it's also where you reflect on what has been and start to plan for the next chapter, my hubby did a few nice things for me however I don't think anything would have been good enough as I didn't know what I really wanted.