Okay my best friend gave birth to her son nearly 2 years ago. At the time that she fell pregnant she was seeing two guys. She told me that one of them was the father I asked her if she was 100% sure and she said yes, so that was that I didn't question it. The father wanted nothing to do with child and has not been in his life... until now. My issue is that I don't believe he is the father I believe it is the other guy. For one mum has blonde hair, blue eyes, and supposed dad the same. The other guy has brown hair, brown eyes, and is indigenous. Her child has all of these features and looks NOTHING like the other father. Her child also has indigenous features and a darker skin tone (not very dark but olive).
Let me just say I want nothing but the best for my friend and I have been there for her through thick and thin and absolutely adore her and her son. I would never say anything to her or anyone else however i can't help but feel anxious about the whole thing. I know it is none of my business but surely it is obvious to her that he is not the father? I feel bad for both the supposed father and child as I feel it is unfair on both. BUT obviously I do not know anything 100% but I can assure you it is very obvious that the looks are not the same. I just want to come out and say if "so and so" is not the father it's okay and I will support you but I don't want to offend her or worse have the friendship ended over it. What would you do? Please no attacking, I want the best for my friend and will support her throughout life, no matter what.
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I would shut my mouth. As frustrating as it is. Genetics can be a funny thing though, none if my sisters look like each other. I have 2 cousins with red hair but NO red hair in the generation before but we did have red hair in the generation before that. So it's quite possible your wrong but at the end of the day it's absolutely none of your business unless your friend brings up the subject first.
I would just say It in a joking way like "gosh he saw looks like that other dude..". I think she probably already knows the truth, so she probably doesn't need to hear it from you. I think she knows the truth and what she is doing is wrong but the truth will come out eventually. I hope the daughter establishes a bond with at least 1 of them. Same thing happened to my friends but she still calls the other guy her dad even thought it isn't bio. Be honest with her but continue to show love. Bad position to be put in