Hi Mums :) Ill try to keep this short, I have five children and 3 weeks ago gone back to work after nine years, I am loving it!! but...I Hired a friend with her qualifications from around 5am -9am 3 days a week paying $200 to get the kids ready for school and to wait with the two smaller ones untill I get home at about 8.30. some days my hubby doesnt leave untill 6- 6.15. My problems are that my friends Father inlaw is here during that period also? My kids have had to wake her up more than one morning to take them to school and I am wondering who is actually doing the looking after of my children and that I should be paying him also?? It's not that I dont trust him, but I would rather her be here on her own doing her job! They have been dropped to school at 7.30 in the morning some days, I could deal better with them being a few mins late if I had to run them to school! When I have talked to her regarding my thaughts she has cut me off, been offended and rude, and expressed on FB how peed off she is. Am I being selfish or am I justified in what I expect from her as my friend and babysitter. I am on the verge of quitting because I dont want to be at work when I am worrying about my babies?? What do I do? Am I being silly??
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Not been silly, fire her n find someone else. Even if ur hubby drops the of to day care, beats this crap. Family daycare is great n cheap. Pay by hour. Normal around $6 per hour. Depending
Deff not being silly, is their even teachers at school at 7.30 am to supervise ?? You want what u pay for if the service is crap then sack her and find someone else. And from an employer point of view next time have everything in writing of what you expect from the sitter, make sure they understand it and sign the piece of paper it may seem abit excessive but if their not doing the right thing then you have proof they knew what they where supposta be doing.
It's weird having your friend's FIL there, why is he there? Is he driving her there? There must be a reason??
I think you should preserve your friendship where possible. Explore another option. At this pout you need a frank talk along the lines of "our friendship is important. This is what I want from our work arrangement. What do you want? If this is a problem for you, then let's walk away as friends and I'll hire someone else".
Write your agreement down. You'll need an emergency nanny in case your friend is sick, and this stranger will need everything clearly laid out. Give your friend a copy too-
Eg. The paid hours are only between 5:30-9, no overtime pay. Nanny must be alert at all times (no sleeping, intoxication). No visitors unless permission expressly given. Restricted outings only to pre-approved places, restrict TV, light housework duties etc. whatever you want. You're paying, you're the boss.
No, you only pay for what you have arranged, I.e between you and your friend.
Maybe she's not a morning person (who is? YAWN), hire someone else (gumtree) for between 5:30am to 8:30am, then your friend can take them to school and mind the younger ones for the rest of the day.
Good luck.
That is a lot of money you are paying her of only 9 hrs of work cash in hand. I don't like the sound of FIL hanging out at your house either. Find someone else or a professional nanny service. I'm confused at your husbands roll here. Is he home when she arrives at 5am? Why can't someone show up 15 minutes before he has to leave?