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Hi I have a situation I need some advise on.
My lo is 10 1/2 months old me and his father have been separated since he was 4 months I meet a great man 3 months ago and his got 2 children 1 he has full time we spend aprox 4 days a week together with the kids and obviously my lo learning to talk had picked up dadda. His father has only visited 4 times has him for 1 night (his choice not mine) since I left and hardly calls so I'm concerned that my Lo will start calling the wrong person dadda (my boyfriend) how do I handle this situation? His a baby I know he Dosent understand but I'm not sure what to do or how to handle this with his father please help
And to make it clear in no way do I want to encorage this not do I ever say this to my son I always say where's name.....
thank you
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Just keep prompting the correct name without making a big deal about it. But honestly if he calls him dada it's not a big deal. Kids his age call everyone mama or dada without distinction.
I agree with the above comment. My boys are two and if they are pictures in a book of a man or a woman, they are daddy and mummy. Just keep reinforcing the use of the name and see how it goes.
ummmm, correct him. say his name instead.
My son was 18months when his dad and I split. When he was 3.5 I had his brother to my partner. From when bub was 4weeks old he started calling my partner daddy. His dad lost his shit over it and yelled at our son. I had explained to the ex that it was my son's choice and that I had explained to our son that the new man wasn't his daddy. My son told me that he knew who his daddy is and wanted to call the new partner daddy too.
In my ex s messed up mind it was OK to call the stepmother mum but not the stepfather dad. We were told by a child psychologist not to mess with the child's head. Let him call the steps what he feels comfortable calling them. Your baby is young, it's going to happen.