I posted on another baby forum about wanting to try for a baby next year. I told the mums on their that I was very clucky and buying some items now. I asked about several things like obs and what steps to take before you start trying etc. I got shot down in a few seconds. Am I crazy to start preparing now. I mean it seems like a huge step to take. I am 32 years old and wanting a baby now but my fiance is 3 years younger so wants to be married first. I think Im a little baby crazy looking at things now and things to do so that we are prepared as much as we can be. What do you think??
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I think it's good your starting to plan for babies now.! Maybe buying things now is a little over the top but certainly looking at OBs and how you can best prepare your body for when the time comes is a good thing
I think you're clucky and filling your time and thoughts with baby until you can have one, not sure why you'd be shot down for that. ( by the way both of mine were surprises and I started everything around 20 weeks pregnan, actually ' got ready' around 30 weeks and because I don't think babies need much besides mum I bought the right things we need after they're here, before then how can you know?) but each to their own, feed your craving, it's very exciting so why not?
Yeah I agree with below posts, probably the best thingsaid you can do to get readY is prepare your body, work, environment/ home and finances. And do some serious childless living!! Concerts, holidays, trips, dinners out, midnight dessert dates etc etc ;)
I wouldn't be buying stuff until I was actually pregnant. I think it's over the top. I think saving some money makes sense, making sure your debts are under control. While if your in my family you may fall pregnant in 5 minutes it takes a lot of people a few years. In that time safety standards change, fashion changes etc. you and your partner haven't even sorted out WHEN you should start trying. If I was your partner I'd be a little freaked out!
Fiance not freaked he knows im wanting baby as soon as we can he know next yr we will start trying
Would you think it's over the top to buy a wedding dress before you are engaged?
I think preparing by researching different OBs and all the different avenues you can take for things is great, because you won't be clueless when you do actually fall pregnant. And I think buying one or two outfits or something is fine (we bought little baby booties when we started trying because they were so cute lol) but anything more than that is probably too far. Besides, you still want to have something exciting left to do when you are actually pregnant! But really, if you and your partner don't see a problem in it then go for it. It's no one else's business really :)
I feel the exact same! I love to be prepared and as I'm not as well set up financially it takes the cost out of buying in bulk all at once through that 9 months. However don't go overboard and buy things that are uneeded. Keep in mind you could possibly have difficulties so having it ready in advance may make it harder to deal with if that happens!
Do what works for you and your family. A friend of mine bought things before falling pregnant . . . or so she thought . . . . . turns out she was pregnant (still bleeding just a bit lighter than normal). Each journey is different, yes you MIGHT have trouble falling however the absence of baby things in your home isn't going to stop the ache in your heart IF you do. I would suggest going off hormone contraception (if you are on it) and going on barrier protection until you are ready to try, they can take a little time to get out of your system.
I think you sound like a normal, clucky mum to be :-) I feel exactly the same! My husband and I have been married for three months and both can't wait to start our family. We will probably have to wait until next year too. I've bought a few kids books and a couple of animal pictures for the nursery :-) I've been researching and sending a lot of time on Pinterest. There is nothing wrong with being prepared! You are definitely not alone :-)