Hi Everyone.
I am currently struggling with a tough decision, and am wondering what others would do in my situation. I am a mum to 3 children 2,4and 6 and . We have moved back to Australia from NewZealand about 1 year ago to be close to my family because we had a close family member who was sick (which is no longer the case).
At first it was great and we loved being close to them. Things started to change and I am finding it very hard to be here and we are considering moving back.
My Husband works in NewZealand still and has been here only 4 times in the past year because of his work and saving money. If we still lived over there he would be home every 2 weeks. So I feel like our boys are missing out on valuable time with him.
My family is very complicated they are very set in there ways and sometimes question the way I raise my children, My Mum and Sister are very strict to the point of not letting kids be kids and play with their toys because the house is clean. I also do not like, that we can not have our own life because everything is questioned and someone gets offend for not inviting them along. Its very tough you have to watch what you say and do and if its something they do not agree on you are the worst person in the world. I also feel like my oldest boy is often "bullied" by my mum they are in a constant battle with one another. My sons have no outlets other then my family. They are great sometimes but most of the time its like we live on eggshells. I have a constant knot in my stomach.
Anyway I want to move back to NZ, We had great friends there and a pretty good life plus my Hubbys family is there. I am feeling huge guilt about leaving here and worried about telling my family because I know the guilt will be laid on thick by them, And I am worried about taking my eldest out of a school he seems happy in.
I guess I just want to know if other people were in my situation would they stay or go?
(sorry for the novel)
5 Replies
I would go back to New Zealand the fact that you only see your husband a handful of times in half a year is enough reason. That's all your family needs to know. If they can't understand you needing/wanting to be with your husband and your kids need to be with their father then that's pretty low of them.
You sound like you have made your decision and seem to be looking for permission to be happy. You know what is right for your children and close family. Go with your instincts. Good luck.
Go back that where u be happy and as for your family tuff they can go back to not haven those lovely kids around it be them missin put not u and the boys
Go back that where u be happy and as for your family tuff they can go back to not haven those lovely kids around it be them missin put not u and the boys
Go. Ack to New Zealand. Kids will have their dad and a happy environment around them. Do what is right for your family, you and your kids. Don't worry about extended family, if you do consider them first instead of your kids and family, your kids are the ones that will miss out all the time. Also time with dad for your kids is so valuable and important. Definitely pack up and go back.