I moved to a brand new area with my child to escape dv
i am a young single parent
I believe this area is far enough for us to be safe although we are isolated.
There are no shopping centres here only a small supermarket where i do grocery shopping
i do not have my license or car as i wasn't allowed to but am trying . lessons are expensive and i do not have a job.
I'm not sure what my question is but i guess I'm looking for some reasurrance that its for the better.
We have lived here for a year and we do things together, go bushwalking, swimming and picnics.
The childcares around are full and there are no playgroups close enough.
is this enough for my child?
I am able to pay bills, keep a clean house, keep us fed and clothed i just feel this isolation will be bad in the long run. we cannot go back and here is the only place i can afford rent.
sorry for my rant i just don't have anyone else.
am i doing the right thing
am i doing the right thing
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Well done! It sounds like youve done the best thing for you & your child & yes that is enough. No dont go back, but after a year it sounds like youre settling down & starting to look forward & have some new needs.
Its normal to want everything, but it takes time so give yourself a break. Youre doing GREAT! It will all happen, licence, car, job, friends, daycare, a settled routine life, but it does take time. It seems youve identified youd like a better social life for yourself & your child & finding ways to make that happen could be your next goal. What about classes like swimming or soccer or dancing, mothers group, the local library, pcyc, school, womens group or council building. Or make an effort to get to know your neighbours.
Good luck! Keep moving forwards!
Well done for doing the best thing for you and your child. Yes it is enough for your daughter to be safe, loved and have a mum who is safe.
It sounds like you are building a wonderful life.
Stay strong, you are doing great x
Have you thought about maybe making another play group closer to you and inviting others to attend? It might help a fair bit with the feeling isolated (for both of you). And yes from the sounds of it you have made a great decision.
Hey mumma! You made a great decision. We live in a tiny town, it hasn't phased my children. They are happy and loved but I agree it can be isolating for us mums when you have no friends or family close by. I also dont have my licence but im working on it. Don't give up! Once you have your licence and get a car you will find it so much easier because you will be able to easily get out of town for the day. Try and budget so you can fit in leason once a fortnight, they are expensive but so worth it!
The idea to start a play group is a great one! Or even a mummy catch up at a bakery or park once a week. If your town has a fb page it would be a great way to advertise it! Sometimes you have to be bold. But you've done a great thing!
Please email me at groupmovingforward@gmail.com. I have started a support group for survivors of dv. You never know, there may be someone in the group you can connect with! If not, we are all in a similar boat and are a great support network!
By the way, I think you are doing fabulously. Escaping is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, and if I didn't need my family support so much, I would have moved far away to a remote place as well. I still think that I should do it most days.
Hope to hear from you, if not, please don't be so hard on yourself, you are doing the best you can and it sounds like you are doing a brilliant job xx