Upon asking three of my closest friends to be bridesmaids we all agreed that they paid the costs of there dresses $99.00 as I am paying for everything else there hair makeup flowers jewelry etc
I was buying there dresses from online lovely purple dresses, they got custom made & I had to pay for them to be sent back, after asking the girls to deposit the money into my bank only one bridesmaid did. Now the other two said they couldn't give me the money for another few wks, so I had to pay the outstanding amount of $200 which has now left me broke for a fortnight , I heard along the grapevine that I am been selfish & because my wedding I have to pay ( am I been selfish ?i hate been the nagging bride but I thought it wouldn't be a problem with them paying as we first agreed
Am I been selfish ?
Am I been selfish ?
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Not selfish, if that's what was agreed up front then they should stick to it.
My Bridemaids paid for their dress and they choose the style and the exact dress they wanted. They knew the cost and was quite happy to pay. Def not being selfish $99 is def not to much to pay for being asked to e part of someone's big day.
I was a bridesmaid for my sister's wedding and we paid for our own dress and shoes. Dress - $450 and shoes - $79. I think you're being very generous, $99 is so cheap! In saying that, I personally believe that if it's your wedding you should pay but in this case you have been upfront with the cost and they have all agreed! You are definitely not selfish.
I don't really have much advice for you, I guess you could give them a call and ask them what the go is? But if you can afford to be out of pocket for a couple weeks then wait to see if they pay first and then ask them.
If they're not happy to pay then you'll have to drop them and just have one or have all 3 and refund the good bridesmaidsmoney to make it fair. Personally I wouldn't have anyone as a bridesmaid who was bitching about me!
Good luck
I paid for all of my 3 bridesmaids dress, flowers, makeup, jewelry everything, I then didn't buy them a gift for being brides maid I have them the dress and shoes as my gift
Did you tell them before you ordered the dresses? If so, and they knew when they were required to give you the money then no I don't think your being selfish, but if you ordered them and then asked for the money I think you need to wait it out. I am maid of honour for my sister and happy to pay for my dress, but she knows I need notice to pay for it and I won't just have it on demand.. Hope this helps x
In reply to the question did I tell them before ordering the dresses the answer is Yes, of course., I actually gave them a couple of months notice when I first ordered the dresses I paid the deposit and then said to them the dresses take 5-6 weeks to make so they knew I had placed the order and had that much time to save or what ever
If they agreed and knew that they would be paying x amount for dresses than no. For my brothers wedding we had to pay for the dresses, unfortunately they didn't mention we had to pay on certain days we went for fittings which left me broke for a week. Everything else was payed for bar shoes but the only thing that annoyed me was no warning for paying with the days we would be, we were just told to show up at a place.
I don't think you're being selfish at all, you're generous enough to pay for their hair and makeup etc. If they were going to have problems paying for the dresses they could of let you know or set up a payment plan with the company the dresses were coming from. When I was a bridesmaid I paid my dress off because I couldn't afford to pay outright.
That's what was agreed to by all and not selfish.
I was bridesmaid and the bride paid for everything. But $99 is pretty cheap and if they agreed to it in advance than they 'should' pay up. But how would you chase this money? I'd be too worried about offending them. Maybe let them know that as you paid for the dresses that they have to pay for there make up? That might be a way to get some money back, so to speak...
No your not being selfish, it very common in Australia that bridemaids pay for the dress they get to keep!!!!!!! and could wear again, its only $100!!