Im 22 and am due with my first in January. I'm currently working full time while my partner is working (casual, with a chance to go full time) and living 2 hours away. I'm really lost about this whole situation, very excited to be having our little boy but the circumstances are awful as I am also currently living with my parents, who although we get along, we are not exceptionally close. I'm scared my mum is going to constantly try take over and tell me 24/7 how to do everything. Has anyone else been through similar? How did you handle it?
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I lived with my parents when my son was born. My parents were pretty busy one studied full time and had hobbies, the other worked full time and had hobbies so they were only really around at night. Not much opportunity to interfere other than give the usual parenting advice. I also already had a plan to move out alone when the baby was about 6 months of age (although I was welcome much longer, living in one bedroom long term was not an option and I was ready to fly the nest). Of course they are going to want to cuddle the baby and share in the joy and honestly I was always pleased if someone wanted to help, having a newborn is exhausting and it brought me great joy to see that they loved my baby as much as I did. I've never felt jealous or interfered with in fact I'm extremely grateful that my son has a close relationship with my parents because it takes a village to raise a child and the more people who love my child the better.
If your concerned about your parents overstepping then it's time to have a conversation with them or move out or both.
I feel like Attitude is 90% of getting through pregnancy & newborns.
Maybe your mum will help, it will be great to have someone to call in the middle of the night, or someone to let you have a shower & a break.
If you really dont think you'll be happy, sort out some living arrangements where you would be more independent now.
Making choices & being happy & making sure its working for you is very important as a new mum, in taking control of the way it woks out but also to your health & emotional wellbeing. Good luck xx