I'm not really sure how to ask the question I want. So here goes. I would like to know other opinions on helping partners threw a Canabis addiction. My partner is very chronic atm, and each attempt has seen him give up within a few days. I have a 4 year old to a previous relationship and am currently 4 months pregnant. It has become too much for me to handle and I don't want that around my kids. (He doesn't smoke near the kids or myself). I want him to be able to put that part of his life behind him and take steps forward for his baby, our family. After a very draining and emotional few weeks his finally understood that I am no longer able to accept or support his addiction and he needs to change something. Tonight he has apologised and asked for my help. But I have no idea how to help. Each failed attempt has left us arguing and almost seperating. I would really like to know your experience, or ideas to help us thru this very hard time!! Please no rude or negativity. I'm very proud of my partner for taking this step to change to improve our lives. I am purely after helpful advise :) thankyou !
Advice for helping partner thru drug addiction.
Advice for helping partner thru drug addiction.
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Make an appointment with a GP. Also look up addiction support groups in your area. Giving up is never as easy as saying I've quit now. He probably needs a full work up as he maybe self medicating for an underlying issue. Also contact a support group for yourself. Drug or alcohol addiction rarely can be dealt with without support and the work HAS to come from him. He may need to go to a detox where they keep you on premises for a period if time to detox away from regular life. Best of luck, I ended up going separate ways to my partner because he just wouldn't do the work and I realised nothing I said or did would change that.
If u met your partner when he was using it, then you have no right to ask him to change. You fell in love with him with the weed then it's up to him to do it on his own. He will never change for you and nor should he have to. HE can only change for himself and when he does you can be there to support him. Trust me I tried. It ended up with me finding someone else who is far far far better as my match.
My partner (and I) were smoking 2/3 joints a night when I fell pregnant, I took me a month to fully give up I cut back to one or two puffs for a week then only one night a week of one or two puffs then cold turkey - but I was pregnant I still craved it but pregnancy made it easy
My partner has struggles with depression and has smoked for 15 years , he started to excercia in my pregnant to really get on top of his depression but continued to smoke he started to lose weight and felt great then when bubs was born he cut back cos we couldn't afford it anyways a year and a half later he hasn't smoked. In 5 months he will still smoke with friend on the weekend and that's his friday beers
But yeah it's a long slow process we've been through but we got there in the end he will never stop completely I don't think even though he may go 4 months sometimes with out it and pick it up again for a few months but it's something I knew about when we dated so I accept it
But it is possible I thought it wasn't possible for him at all! As an like your partner he sees no harm whatsoever for him it was financial why he have up
Good luck cx