Hi there, I'm in need of some outsiders thoughts. I'm a recently separated mum of 3, two of which are my ex's. I'm moving across the country in a month, and wanted to have him spend as much time with them as possible, however now I'm not so sure. He has threatened to take off with them in the past, so that worries me to begin with. But last night he called and asked why I didn't love him etc. and it got pretty heated. I hadn't allowed him access to the house to collect his things because I wasn't home, so he threatened to break in. I told him I'd have him charged, so he told me he'd tell the police about the drug stash in my house!! I've never done drugs!! I know he has, and now I'm concerned that he's got some here, and that he's using, and he wants to have my babies overnight!! (In the caravan out the back of his friends house) Should I be putting my foot down and saying no? Or should I let my girls spend time with their dad? I just don't know what to do!!
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You need to seek legal advice. The dad has rights wether he lives in a caravan or not and your children have the right to spend time with there dad. I and my sister lived in a caravan park for a number of years and we had awesome parents. A caravan for a few nights does not equal a bad parent (ever heard of camping). Also they are not just your babies. Do you know if it's ok to move across the country? His threat was worrying though but if there is no parenting plan in place he has as much right to have the children live with him as you do.
Get something in writing quick smart! Like yesterday. It protects you and him! Personally I would ask someone to watch the little ones and go through the house with a fine tooth comb. That comment is more than worrying and if something is found in the house unfortunately it is you that is occupying the premises. Also if he is nasty enough to threaten to set you up like that treat that very seriously.