Is it unfair
I have two kids aged 10 and 12. I have there devises on family link, and have set them to unlock in the morning. My 10yos unlocks at 630. Because she wakes up when dad is getting ready for work most days. Plays with it until 730 when it's time to get ready. She then on call to her friends on messenger kids while she gets ready. She's always ready with in 20 minutes, no drama, no prompting to get ready.
My 12yo however, is a sloth. His phone unlocks at 815, 5 minutes before we leave and he thinks it's unfair. I did so, because he will sit and play with it and not get ready. He is super hard to get out of bed. He requires so much prompting to get ready it drives me nuts. We are always JUST make it intime to get to the bus. This isn't just a school morning thing. Hes simply hard to get ready for everything. He complained to his grandmother and she thinks I'm being unfair. Is she right.
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Not unfair, it's called Natural Consequences.
Tell your 12 y/o if he wants his phone, he gets up earlier & once he's ready you'll unlock it if there's time. If he doesn't, no phone. Make it clear it's his actions that decide.
My impossible to drag out of bed DS12 only get his phone once he's ready. He knows privileges are earned, it's not about fairness. Stuff around & he misses out. Yes, it works. He occasionally misses out & is reminded why.
Tell his grandmother to butt out. My MIL told me I was mean for restricting sugar (yes, really) & I told her that's the way it is, there'll be no further discussion.