Our 15 years old son has announced he is gay. We…as in daughter (14yrs) and I are not surprised, hubby blind sided, but fine.
My problem is my daughter’s friends year 12 brother hung out a car window and hurled verbal abuse at my son as he was walking home from school. I would consider the mum and I friends. They all go to a catholic school so I am ok with respecting religion.
But I feel insulted that we do a lot for this particular family and it is not really reciprocated, but some need more help than others.
I don’t want to bring it up, I know they don’t agree with different sexualities, but no need for yelling at someone walking home.
They have a big family and her older kids don’t have anything to do with my kids especially my son.
I have typed out a million messages, gone to ring but, what is the point.
I told the school, they said they would get to the bottom of it, that was a few weeks ago now. Heard nothing.
Next time they ask for help, the answer is a hard no.
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You can also report it to police.
Ok, who says the parents are even aware that their child even did this. I'd just talk to the parents and let them know. If they are uncomfortable about it, asking them to atleast be respectful, and that bulling a child isn't very religious of them.
Respecting religion doesn’t mean tolerating homophobia and abuse, especially on the way to/from school. Your sons has every right to simply exist safely in his community.
Have your sons back and go speak to the family.
I’d also say no more favours. Partly due to this reason and partly because you seem to be doing it with some expectation of reciprocity. It’s better to help someone simply because you can and you want to, not because you want the same in return.
It was more context. I seem to be her go to person, I am happy to help but if I need a hand they can’t because they have a busy family and no room/time/able to.
I don’t ask for help very often and not at all now my kids are teens, but I don’t ask her because there is always an excuse to why, but how she feels terrible she can’t and I do so much for them.
I think I feel a little disrespected that I always make her needs fit in with us, and obviously my son’s sexuality has been discussed for the brother to have an opinion.
I would absolutely raise this with his parents. They may be completely mortified considering how helpful you are to to them as well. Give them an opportunity to speak to their son. If they do not know, they cannot act. Just come from a calm space when you do speak to them.
Do not get caught up on the expectations re the Catholic school. I have discovered some of the people there are the most judgemental, disgusting people and not at all demonstrating Christian-like behaviour. They are just like any other school. Blame the parents, allow bullying and lie if necessary to protect one another.