Hi Sisterhood!
I would love to hear from some mums who have had a baby at 40…
I have 2 children aged 10 &12, my partner has 2 children, aged 12 & 15. We have very surprisingly found out I am pregnant, I will be 40 later this year, my partner is a few years older than me. I feel scared, I don’t know how I will go physically compared to when I was in my 20s…I believe a lot of things will come easier than back then, as in financially and our relationship, but I am scared of being an older mum and how tough it may be…
And advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you very much!
Having a baby at 40.
Having a baby at 40.
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I was 39 with my second baby. 35 with my first, so I didn't have older kids to compare it to.
I don't think we were any more tired than younger parents. Money wise it's definitely easier than it would have been in our 20's.
Physically I didn't get stretch marks & lost the weight surprisingly easy, even though I've always struggled with maintaining weight due to PCOS.
We live in a rural area where it's more common to have babies early, so I found/find it more difficult to make connections. Older mums weren't really frequenting play groups, I think, as I've met quite a few now. I didn't bother with my 2nd, so it's probably why.
The only issue I had was age judgement. A young mum actually said to me she couldn't dream of having babies at my age & was really snooty about it! I didn't engage because it wasn't worth it. But, I think you are judged at any age now. A benefit of being older is the lack of giving a hoot.
You'll be fine, just go with it!
how long have you been together?
We have been together for 4 years.
I couldn't do it! I'm in my early 40's and have adult children. I work in childcare and go home exhausted every day and I'm not dealing with the sleepless nights, the "getting ready", car seats, illness and so on and so on. I always say if I fall pregnant I would have an abortion, I'm past that stage and would be a terrible mother if I went back to that. I know this might not be what you want to hear but it's an honest opinion!