Hi Ladies,
I was just wondering if you ever experience your man in a bad mood suddenly and they won’t talk to you or look at you or help out around the house? I am wondering if this is part of living with a man as I know generally they don’t like talking about their feelings. My apologies if this post seems gender discriminative. That is not my intention. I just know men are biologically wired differently to women and I’m fairly isolated in knowing what’s “normal”. Thanks.
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It emotional abuse. My partner would do this at the beginning of our relationship and I told him after I recognised the pattern that I wasn’t having it. If he was upset he could speak to me like an adult and we could work through it together but the silent treatment and punishment of not doing his share of the chores was to stop. If it didn’t I was out, I’m too old to be doing this dance with a grown man.
He wasn’t aware it was a form of emotional abuse and that’s how things were dealt with in his previous 10 year relationship.Talking about his issues to begin with was hard for him because he was worried I would be in the defensive and not listen to him. Set those boundaries and be ready to follow through if they’re not respected.
I'm the one who goes quiet when we have a disagreement. It's not because I'm trying to manipulate. It's because I don't want the argument to escalate. So I say my part, listen to his. Then I take myself away from the situation to settle. I have bipolar, so I need that alone time to settle, evaluate and remain calm. I normally stay on my room. But I don't stop helping around the house. I just keep quiet and to myself because I know I can be explosive in times of stress.